We belong to several Yorkie sites on Facebook. Yorkie moms and dads post pictures of their fur babies, ask questions, seek solutions, and share their grief after losing a precious companion. For the most part, everyone on the sites is kind, encouraging, and willing to help when asked questions.
Some, however, post negative, often nasty comments in response to other Yorkie fur parents. People are beginning to preface their questions with no judgments please or be kind. We shouldn’t need to defend ourselves when asking questions or seeking solutions.
Facebook, and other social media sites, give the illusion of anonymity – in other words, we are responding to an image of a person, not a live person. But that is false, isn’t it? On the other side of that image is a live human being.
Perhaps I am too trusting, but I believe the majority of people on these sites genuinely love their Yorkies. I also believe that some are smitten by Yorkies, then purchase one only to find out they can be a bit of a handful. Either way, when Yorkie fur parents reach out, most often they need answers to their questions.
I am a teacher/healer by nature and believe there is no such thing as a dumb question if one truly does not know the answer. So, why is it that we treat people who are seeking answers or solutions badly enough that they feel the need to preface their questions by asking others not to judge? When did the world become so cold toward others? We have become like the proverbial frog in the pot of water that is gradually heated to boiling.
The overconsumption of social media has not helped matters any. We believe we can say whatever we want to people who are no more than images on a screen. I see responses to questions that are often in all capital letters – screaming text if you will. TAKE THE DOG TO THE VET or YOU DON’T DESERVE TO HAVE A YORKIE! If I reply at all, it will be to people, not images, who have received answers like these.
We would do well to remember that real people are on the other side of images displayed on popular social media sites, real people who have feelings. Be kind…..