1 Peter 3:15 says, “but treat the Messiah as holy, as Lord in your hearts while remaining always ready to give a reasoned answer to anyone who asks you to explain the hope you have in you – yet with humility and fear…..” (The Complete Jewish Bible) This is one of those scriptures containing a wealth of gold and precious treasure, and one that is often misinterpreted. The highlighted text is usually used to justify proselytizing, in other words, evangelizing. Tract in hand we are encouraged to go door-to-door and harvest souls for Jesus, pass out our salvation tracts while standing in line at the grocery store, or tell everyone we come in contact with that we are Christians and belong to said church down the block.
We have all heard stories about people who stopped a stranger in a restaurant, or in the grocery store line, and randomly struck up a Jesus-loves-me-this-I-know conversation, then invited the person to church the following Sunday only to find out if that same person, by virtue of that happenstance encounter, would have ended up homeless, or worse if they hadn’t had the encounter. I have heard far more stories about encounters that didn’t end so well, in fact, have tarnished the overall Christian reputation.
For example, yesterday on the Christian radio station I listen to during the drive to work, the DJ’s were discussing Christians eating out at restaurants. Several wait staff called in with their stories about people fresh out of church on Sunday morning coming in to break bread with fellow church members. In the course of the meal the Christian patrons were demanding, messy, and often downright rude to the wait staff. Some that were not, left a “Jesus loves you” note and a salvation tract instead of a tip on the table. Mind you, I am a work in progress just like everyone else, and I would like to think that the dazzling gray hair I have gracing my head represents wisdom. I haven’t been the most generous tipper in my lifetime, and I can be sharp with people at times. Alas, I am human! Fortunately, I can say that I am slowly improving in both areas; becoming increasingly mindful of the way I speak to others, whomever they may be, and making a conscious effort to be more generous in general.
Logic would tell us that church people who treat restaurant wait staff like servants and choose to be cheapskates, are not representing Jesus in a positive light. Most of our kids, at one time or another, have been in the service industry and truly dependent upon their tips to make ends meet. As Christians, we are taught to put others first, look for opportunities to help, do what Jesus would do. Unfortunately, those who don’t claim a tight and abiding relationship with the Almighty are far better at generosity in many areas of life than those who wear Christianity like a flashing neon sign.
I have always done a fair amount of self-analysis over the years; I want to understand myself better. Better understanding of self helps us to better understand others. Self-analysis reveals the reasons why we act, speak, or think the way we do, but it does not excuse the behavior or words, it only serves to make us more aware. Once aware, the responsibility is ours to correct the flaws; it sounds cliche, but the goal is to become more like Jesus, or at least a better person.
A portion of my job is teaching new employees, and communication is a big part of the training. One of the most valuable tools we have to offer, on or off the job, is the ability to communicate well. More than 65% of our communication with others is non-verbal; all those things we say without speaking a word. Eye rolling (Lord have mercy!), eye contact, the way we stand, the tone of our voice, to name a few. In truth, words don’t mean that much in conversation, or everyday life. In any encounter we are more in tune with the non-verbal communication of others than we are the verbal, even when we are not aware. Thus, a clue to the meaning of 1 Peter 3:10.
The first part of this verse is important to understanding of the remainder. Treating the Lord as holy is a heart issue; recognizing and acknowledging His Lordship, in other words, to be in awe of Him. In so doing, our thoughts, words, and behavior will align more closely with God and the journey we travel. When our hearts align with Him our lives will reflect the relationship we have with Him. Words and tracts will not be necessary when we interact with others; our lives will speak volumes. The actions of those who hand out tracts and treat their fellow man badly speaks volumes to others, too. People do notice, and are drawn to those whose lives reflect a true journey with God. They want to know what makes us different, and when we are asked, we have an answer; we have chosen to journey with God.
No one is perfect, we all mess up daily, and the journey is often rocky, yet we continue to put one foot in front of the other as our lives slowly align with our Creator. The goal is to stay in relationship, keep walking the journey and realizing the message people receive from us about our journey, or the lack of it, is spoken loudly through our actions more so than our words…..